When the Client Is Male: Good client-provider interaction is one goal of a worldwide movement that places family planning and reproductive health in a human rights context, 1 in which responding to the client's needs rather than achieving a demographic or other outcome is the primary objective. Essential elements of good client-provider interaction are respectful treatment including respect for the client's right to confidentiality and privacyrespect for a woman's right to make decisions about her body, voluntary and informed choice, and incorporation of a gender perspective.
Karen Ruskin on June 5, Finding a therapist that is a good fit for you or your loved one is very important in therapeutic care, fit does indeed matter. That is the topic of this blog today that I have chosen to address and shall open the door for my readers to think about their opinion.
Certainly starting off with comfort is important, is it not? Although intellectually one must realize that a female therapist genuinely is able to help a male client as well as a female client, and a male therapist is truly able to help a male client as well as a female client, the fact is that if a client comes in with a pre-conceived notion about the therapist based on gender, it has the potential to affect treatment if not addressed.
Many men that come for therapy specifically report they desire to speak with a female reporting they feel a female therapist will be more understanding and help them understand women better. Of course there may be men who feel a male therapist would understand them better, what is interesting is I experience more often the former in therapists requests.
I have also observed in my years as a therapist that women typically request a female therapist feeling that a man just because he is a male in gender may not be able to understand what she is going through nor her perspective.
For an example, for a male child that does not have any healthy male role models in his life, to have a male therapist that is patient, supportive, and provides true helpful advice is a wonderful opportunity for this child to have a male to speak with and connect with to learn from and feel understood by.
For a female child that has observed males acting in a non healthy way, to have a male therapist offers this female a view of men as compassionate, helpful, and wise, which is a great seed to plant. The same concepts are true in reverse.
For an example, for a male child that has a poor connection with his mother due to her severe mental health issues that has shown in her lacking in empathy, to have a female therapist that is understanding and therapeutic is a gift for a boy to see women can be empathetic. For a female child to have been raised by a very judgmental mother to have a female in her life that is supportive of helping this girl work therapeutically at her own pace and work on self esteem issues with her would be a great experience with long term effects.
The aforementioned are just but a few examples, of course there are many examples that can make the argument for a female or for a male therapist.
If gender matters to some, and although at times is not a significant factor in therapy, and other times it is, would it be concerning then if I shared with you that research is showing a significant decline for one of the genders as therapists?
Specifically, in a recent article in the New York Times this month entitled: A Good Man is Hard to Findthe decrease in male therapists was addressed. The key is to have true mindful awareness of what the difference in having a male versus a female therapist would mean to you and share your needs.
Male and female therapists wish for their clients to achieve their therapeutic goals and are invested in and interested in your thoughts and feelings. If you have a gender preference, you do have a right to make your request and have it fulfilled. At any point in the therapy relationship if you feel uncomfortable, whether it is about a gender issue, or anything else, know that a good therapist is one that wants to know your feelings and will be respectful of them.
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Often quoted in various print media. Author of 3 books:Sex Between Therapists and Clients. Kenneth S.
Pope. Abstract: Sex between therapists and clients has emerged as a significant phenomenon, one that the profession has not adequately acknowledged or leslutinsduphoenix.comive research has led to recognition of the extensive .
Counselor Services Provided Become a Therapy Resources Network Provider Therapy Resources is always looking to expand our network of . Men’s Counseling – continued The gender of your counselor should also be taken into consideration when you are researching.
While many Men’s Counselors are generally male, there are also female Men’s Counselors as well.
While of course neither sex is better than the other, being completely comfortable with your counselor is very . If staff believes that the client is unable to give informed consent (for example, because of a mental disability), then written informed consent must be given by the parent or legal guardian if the client is a minor, or by a legal guardian, if the client is an adult.
Counseling Stoic Warriors: Providing Therapy to Military Men David L. Fenell Female Counselors Working With Male Clients Using Relational–Cultural Theory Thelma Duffey and Shane Haberstroh Chapter 16 A Counselor’s Guide to Working With Men.
Diverse studies have gathered samples of patients who never again sought mental health services as well as those who later entered into therapy again with a new therapist.
the disciplined therapist was male and the client was female. NOTE: This chapter, "Sex Between Therapists and Clients,” by Ken Pope, appeared in Encyclopedia of.